A year ago Friday I lost a dear friend to a cruel disease-cancer. She was gone before her army of friends could process it… and that army is still wrapping their arms around it. She had such a team behind her, a loving family, and a little boy. Cancer didn’t care. I wrote this poem to honor her, our friendship and the team that surrounded her–many putting their lives on hold without a second thought to fight by her side. All because of her generous spirit and beautiful smile.
I have this friend, her name is Amy.
I met her 25, or so, years ago.
The moment was unremarkable, so much so, I don’t remember when or where.
Maybe some club on the Strip. Maybe over a drink, or five.
No matter, as how is what really matters.
Her best friend introduced us.
I was excited to share.
Jello shots, Thai Elvis, Palm Springs, pantsuits, orchids, Dan Tanas.
Financial advisors and tax accountants.
Baby showers (both ours), bridal showers (not ours), birthdays.
Sweet as Hell, a T-shirt I once made for her in soft pink.
An hour phone call over a man in another land (mine), a brief conversation over a man at a NYC bar (her).
Encouraging talks from one single mom to a hopeful new single mom (her),
Short concerned calls over our mutual best friend (Kat),
Texts and IMs—AmyDeeZ—about shoes and music and stuff that no longer seems to matter.
And finally, a frightened conversation in the early morning hours on a September Sunday…
It takes a village, she said, more than a little embarrassed.
There’s an entire team behind you, Team Amy.
She smiled the beautiful Amy smile we all know.
Remember, you have an army of friends all here for you, I told her.
We all gave to Amy, because Amy gave to us.
To me, Amy is one of my close girlfriends, because that’s how Amy is.
So many years ago, Amy shared Katherine with me.
Then in short time I met more of her best and closest friends, Jill, Cindy and Mindy.
Her loving family—including her beloved Jake.
And over countless drinks and dinners, I heard stories of her Warner Brothers crew, the Palm Springs crowd, her Minneapolis friends, the tennis and UCLA fans, and so many more.
A year ago, in typical selfless Amy fashion, she shared her Army of friends.
And she did it with a sweet smile.
Amy’s Army became TeamAZ
United because of our love for her and her generous spirit, we are all blessed to call one another friend.
Thanks to our American Girl.